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With or without you: a memoir

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Grouping Titlewith or without you
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Grouping LanguageEnglish (eng)
Last Grouping Update2020-09-27 07:39:26AM
Last Indexed2020-09-27 07:51:56AM
Novelist Primary ISBN9780385360975

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display_descriptionA haunting, unforgettable mother-daughter story for a new generation—the debut of a blazing new lyrical voice

Domenica Ruta grew up in a working-class, unforgiving Italian town north of Boston where in the seventeenth century women were hanged as witches. Her mother, Kathi, a notorious figure in this hardscrabble place, was a drug addict and sometime dealer whose life swung between welfare and riches, whose highbrow taste was at odds with her base appetites. And yet she managed, despite the chaos she created, to instill in her daughter the idea that art—via a classic film or a classical education—could transcend this life of undying grudges, self-inflicted misfortune, and the crooked moral code that Kathi and her cohorts lived by. With or Without You is the story of Domenica's unconventional coming of age—a darkly hilarious chronicle of a misfit '90s childhood and the necessary and painful act of breaking away, and of overcoming her own addictions and demons in the process. In a brilliant stylistic feat, Domenica Ruta has written a powerful, inspiring, compulsively readable, and finally redemptive story about loving and leaving.

Advance praise for With or Without You

"Freakishly brilliant, brilliantly freakish, this is one of the best memoirs I have ever read. Domenica Ruta has done something every artist with a failed family must do: She has created herself."—Gary Shteyngart

" 'Make it new,' Ezra Pound directed, and Domenica Ruta has. Difficult childhoods are plentiful; the talent to transform adversity into art is in short supply. Unflinching in its regard, forgiving in its humor, With or Without You is that rare thing, a story you think you know transformed into one you have to read to the end."—Kathryn Harrison

"In the world of memoir, Mary Karr's and Geoffrey Wolff's exceptional books burn and brighten, like actual stars among strings of tinsel. With or Without You is like that. I will read whatever Domenica Ruta writes."—Amy Bloom
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subject_facetChildren of drug addicts -- Massachusetts -- Biography
Drug addicts -- Massachusetts -- Biography
Ruta, Domenica
title_displayWith or without you : a memoir
title_fullWith or Without You A Memoir
With or without you : a memoir / Domenica Ruta
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Children of drug addicts
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Family & Relationships
Ruta, Domenica